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How To Meet Safely

Tips on how to meet safely

We strive to make online dating enjoyable for all our members. We make every effort to provide a high level of privacy and security on our website. While the vast majority of people can be trusted, you must be aware of predators, scammers and online liars. There have been cases where online dating services have been used for the wrong purposes. For instance, some users join the site but aren't looking for dates. Instead they may use your personal details to send unwanted advertisements or ask for money (this is known as a scam). To protect you from undesirable contacts we have compiled a list of tips below to help you stay safe.

Trust Your Instincts. Our instincts are always trying to tell us something. Learn to trust them. Too many of us don't trust our instincts and ignore them, sometimes to our own detriment. If at any point you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection. Watch out for anyone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via this dating site and look out for odd behaviour or inconsistencies in their profile, conversation or actions. The person at the other end may not be who or what they claim to be.

Don't Provide Personal Information Too Soon. Never give out your full name, home address, telephone number or any other sensitive personal information unless you know who you're dealing with. Armed with just your home phone number, a person can easily gain access to your income information, home address, and even learn the value of your home. This website works using an anonymous email and chat system where none of your online personal information is made available to other members. Make sure you send and receive emails via our onsite email system. Take your time getting to know people better and develop a trusting relationship.

Be cautious. Never let your guard down. Some people take advantage of those looking for adult fun by befriending them and trying to scam them. These scams range from illegal advertisements, to redirection to other websites where you have to pay, to asking for credit card details or money. Be cautious of members whose profiles state that they are from one country but the person tells you they are from another. Most commonly, the female dating site scammer will describe herself as "god fearing, real, honest, sincere, loving, and genuine". If you believe the person contacting you is displaying any of the behaviour listed above and looks too-good-to-be-true, ignore them and DO report them to us straight away using our scammer reporting option. Make sure you know how to save copies of your online dating conversations.

Safe mode (for male members only)

Safe Mode gives you control over which members can contact you. To switch between safe modes go to the top of the page and click on the ‘Settings’ icon to open the right menu.

There are three types of Safe mode:

  1. Safe Mode Off - any member can contact you, including unverified members.
  2. Safe Mode Basic - you won't get messages or chat invites from members who have been flagged as suspicious by our site safety team. They will also be removed from your search results.
  3. Safe Mode Full (for paid members only) allows only verified members who have received a “Trusted Member” badge to contact you. Members with the “Trusted Member” badge can be easily spotted in search results.

Bear in mind:

  • You will continue to receive messages from members you have previously contacted. Safe Mode settings will not change this. Please use the Block feature to prevent individual members from contacting you.
  • Turning Safe Mode off will not allow you to see blocked messages that were sent to you when Safe Mode was active.

Our site administration will never ask for verification information

Site administration never requires verification information. You should not follow any external links that members may share with you. If a suspicious member asks you for a personal code, please inform us and we will take action.


Our site provides multiple layers of security that give our members peace of mind and enables them to feel confident about communicating with each other. We screen the name you give us for felony and sexual offense convictions using some of the largest criminal records files on the Internet. Anyone with a felony or sexual offense conviction recorded in these files is prevented from communicating with the site members. We can't guarantee that criminals can't get on our site, but we can guarantee that they'll be sorry they did. Our team vigorously pursues individuals who misrepresent themselves on our website. You should be suspicious if any member expresses love for you after only a few emails. We protect your personal information, but if you decide to exchange your personal email address or phone number with another member, your anonymity is no longer protected.

Sharing your computer with others

Make sure other people cannot access your personal emails and obtain your login details to our site. This is the only way your profile could be accessed by other people. We highly recommend you follow these rules if you use a public computer:

Log out from our site (click "Log Out") and any other accounts or mailboxes before leaving your workplace or public computer. Use the "Incognito" mode (private browsing). While you are incognito, web pages that you open and files downloaded aren't recorded in your browsing and download histories. After you close all incognito windows you've opened, all new cookies are deleted. You can use the following keyboard shortcuts to access the Incognito mode in browsers:

  • Mozilla Firefox – Ctrl+Shift+P
  • Opera – Ctrl+Shift+N
  • Google Chrome – Ctrl+Shift+N

Remember that all your visiting history and account information is stored in your browser's cookies. We recommend you remove all cookies after site browsing. Should someone gain access to your personal email, we suggest that you create another one and provide us with your new details. We will then change your registered email address for your account and send your new password to the newly set up email address.

How can I log in to the site?

To log in to our site you need to enter your login details: your email or phone number and a password.

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To log out from the site click on your avatar in the top right corner and click the 'Log Out' option from the menu.

How do I become a Verified Member?

To ensure safe communication on the site, we strongly recommend that all our members verify their accounts to obtain ‘Verified Member’ status. It’s really quick and easy.

Just call our operators at 18009484215.

Once your account has been successfully verified, your status will change to ‘Verified’ and will be seen to all members.

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